Wednesday, 26 February 2014

What Should Be Covered in a Parenting Plan?

parenting planBy Julie Garrison


If you have children, you will be required to prepare a parenting plan with your soon-to-be ex-wife. This is a good idea for many reasons.


You will have your child custody arrangement and time allotment with your children spelled out on paper. Gone are the days when mothers were given custody by default and dads were given “reasonable” visitation with the mother determining what was “reasonable.”


Until recently, almost all child custody was divided into custodial and non-custodial. The custodial parent had the children the majority of the time and the non-custodial parent had visitation.


Now, most custody arrangements are “joint” physical and legal custody with parenting time on both sides.


While it would be ideal to have a 50/50 designation of parenting time with your children, this is rarely the case because of scheduling conflicts, work hours, and variables in the activities of the children. A more a realistic split of parenting time would be 60/40 or even 70/30, depending upon the particulars.


Out-of-state parents often have a time split with children spending the school year with one parent and the summer with another. During large blocks of time away from their children, out-of-state parents can utilize Internet and mobile applications (such as Skype and FaceTime) to have ongoing communication with their children.


Another important aspect of a parenting plan is your power to make decisions on behalf of your child. Normally, a joint custody parenting plan gives both parents decision-making power.


Conflicts, of course, will arise just as they did when you were married. There will need to be a conflict resolution clause in your parenting plan that indicates how differences between you and your ex are to be worked out.


You should have language in your parenting plan that, in the event you and your ex-wife cannot come to an agreement on a decision regarding your child, you will allow a court mediator to assist in conflict resolution.


Some parenting plans allow cooperative parents the freedom of determining pick-up and drop-off times, changes in days spent with each parent, holidays, and other pertinent logistics.


A child may want to participate in a Girl Scout event or soccer game that conflicts with the parenting time of one parent. This type of flexibility affords the child a more secure and stable relationship with both parents.


Other considerations in a parenting plan should include medical decisions; notification when emergency medical care/surgery is required; that both parents be provided with report cards; immunization records; schedules of the children’s important athletic/extracurricular events; and who a parent may allow to stay in the home during his or her parenting time block.


One thing to remember about a parenting plan is that it is permanent. As a child grows, it is possible for a parent to go to court and amend the parenting plan to fit both parents and the children.


However, the courts frown upon modification requests based on material changes. There has to be significant change in a child’s situation to warrant a material change to the parenting plan. Some examples are a parent who becomes terminally ill, moves out of state, or repeatedly violates the parenting plan terms.


With the advent of the parenting plan, being a parent becomes an equal, cooperative venture between a mother and a father on paper. One parent no longer is afforded a physical or psychological advantage over the other, and this results in happier, more balanced, emotionally secure children.


Because they are proving to be vastly more effective than the custody/visitation model, a parenting plan is the best route to take for divorced couples with children.


Sunday, 23 February 2014

The Dos and Dont’s of Co-Parent Communication

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coparenting divorceAlmost half of all first marriages end in divorce and two-thirds of those involve children, leading many to question what the effects will be on all of those kids.

According to the National Association of School Psychologists, about 80 percent the of children of divorced parents go on to lead a productive, well-adjusted lives as adults. That still leaves 20 percent who may suffer from a variety of psychological or social difficulties.

Family therapist Isolina Ricci, PhD., feels children who are allowed to love both of their parents without loyalty conflicts, in addition to having access to both without the fear of losing one or the other, are likely better equipped to cope with the divorce and its aftermath.

Ideally, she says, "learning to get along with your ex may be one of the greatest gifts you can give your child."

One of the issues you may have had as a married couple is communication, so how do you communicate after the divorce? The same issues you had before are likely to creep up once again.

By following these tips, you can help make a difficult situation easier on the kids as well as yourself.

Communicate frequently

In order to prevent small problems from growing into major issues, communication is essential. Divorce and parenting coach Rosalind Sedacca advises creating a calendar that lists who is responsible for what on each day, week or month.

One way to do this without having to talk constantly is to consider investing in a cloud-based program or document sharing service that will allow both parents to access files like sports season schedules and calendars, as well as important documents like immunization records and birth certificates.

LiveDrive is ranked as one of the top cloud storage systems, and according to a LiveDrive review, it offers seamless file transfers to Flickr and Facebook as well as synchronized filing across multiple devices. This allows both parents the ability to share photos and videos, as well as the ability to access necessary information on all of their high tech gadgets.

Agree on consistent household rules

Children grow up healthier and happier if they have routine and structure. It’s important to have a discussion and come to an agreement on rules and behavioral guidelines that are to be enforced at both households.

Rules for homework, bed time, and chores should all be consistent. According to Psychology Today, research has shown that children who grow up with parents who have a unified approach experience greater well-being.

Don’t ask children to be the messenger

Marriage and family therapist Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D., advises parents to never ask their child to carry a message to the other parent or to be responsible for setting up any type of arrangements, including transportation. These matters should always be taken care of by the adults, as they are adult matters.

Don’t expose your children to parenting conflicts

Your child should never be involved in issues that will inevitably arise with co-parenting. Exposing a child to conflicts by putting them in the middle of what should be an adult issue has been found to promote insecure feelings in children which may result in problems with self-esteem and other issues.

This includes never talking disrespectfully about your ex — you should discourage the kids from doing so as well.



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Thursday, 20 February 2014

Visitation Interference: My Ex Is Always Changing Plans At The Last Minute!

stepfather issuesBy Julie Garrison


Special to DadsDivorce.com


Parents granted joint custody are generally afforded one of two parenting plan options, depending upon the state they live in:


1. One is a loosely determined plan where both parents fulfill their parenting plan with loosely scheduled blocks of time that are occasionally subject to change.


2. The other choice consists of set days of parenting time with set hours, holidays, pick-up and drop-off locations, and all other considerations spelled out in a court order.


While some ex-spouses are able to pick up and drop off the kids at a set time, there are those parents who exist in the parallel universe of the habitual last-minute change.


And while the occasional flu bug or flat tire can temporarily disrupt any parenting-time arrangement, ongoing capricious change can be devastating to a child.


For instance, take Johnny who waited and waited for his mother to pick him up for a "special" birthday surprise. Well it was special, all right, because Mom never showed.


Johnny was left crying his eyes out and wondering if something "bad" happened to Mommy. Even though Johnny’s dad and step-mom rapidly put together a party and tried to make the best of the situation, the birthday boy was heartbroken.


The mother’s reason for not showing up was that she and her new boyfriend had gone on an impromptu, out-of-town, weekend trip, and the mother had "forgotten" to call her ex or their son to make other arrangements for the child’s birthday.


So what can an ex-husband do to create a more stable parenting plan when his ex-wife has no qualms about changing the particulars at the last minute?


Document, document, document. Begin logging each time your ex-wife changes her parenting time at the last minute.  


Schedule a meeting with your ex-wife at a public place, such as a coffee shop, to discuss the problem of her last-minute changes. Ask her if there is some circumstance, such as a health problem, marital discord, or some other reason why she is not able to keep her end of the deal.


Try not to be accusatory. Instead, explain the negative effect it is having on the child. Your ex may clean up her act for a few months and then slip back into the same irresponsible behavior. If that happens, call another meeting and go through the same repertoire again.


If you find that your ex really has no desire to change, meet with a family law attorney to explore your options. A family law attorney may be able to draw up a revised parenting plan where your ex-wife must show up on time or forfeit her parenting time on that particular occasion.


If you eventually need to play hardball with your ex by going back to court for the sake of your child, then so be it. A judge can sanction your ex for her irresponsible behavior. She may even have to pay your divorce attorney fees.

Tuesday, 18 February 2014

How Long Can I Be Forced to Participate in a Family Law DEPOSITION?

There were quite a few changes to the codes of California effective at the beginning of 2013. To be sure, we have attempted to bring some of those to light in this firm's blog. We are eagerly awaiting 2014's code updates and look forward to blogging about them next year.

One interesting change for January, 2013 was a seven hour time limitation on certain depositions. Code of Civ. Proc. § 2025.290(a). This change mirrors Federal Rules of Civil Procedure, Rule 30(d)(1) in some ways. We want you to know that you have an important new objection available to you, and that many lawyers are as yet unaware of this recent change in the law.

CCP § 2025.290 provides:

(a) Except as provided in subdivision (b), or by any court order, including a case management order, a deposition examination of the witness by all counsel, other than the witness' counsel of record, shall be limited to seven hours of total testimony. The court shall allow additional time, beyond any limits imposed by this section, if needed to fairly examine the deponent or if the deponent, another person, or any other circumstance impedes or delays the examination.

(b) This section shall not apply under any of the following circumstances:

(1) If the parties have stipulated that this section will not apply to a specific deposition or to the entire proceeding.

(2) To any deposition of a witness designated as an expert pursuant to Sections 2034.210 to 2034.310, inclusive.

(3) To any case designated as complex by the court pursuant to Rule 3.400 of the California Rules of Court, unless a licensed physician attests in a declaration served on the parties that the deponent suffers from an illness or condition that raises substantial medical doubt of survival of the deponent beyond six months, in which case the deposition examination of the witness by all counsel, other than the witness' counsel of record, shall be limited to two days of no more than seven hours of total testimony each day, or 14 hours of total testimony.

(4) To any case brought by an employee or applicant for employment against an employer for acts or omissions arising out of or relating to the employment relationship.

(5) To any deposition of a person who is designated as the most qualified person to be deposed under Section 2025.230.

(6) To any party who appeared in the action after the deposition has concluded, in which case the new party may notice another deposition subject to the requirements of this section.

(c) It is the intent of the Legislature that any exclusions made by this section shall not be construed to create any presumption or any substantive change to existing law relating to the appropriate time limit for depositions falling within the exclusion. Nothing in this section shall be construed to affect the existing right of any party to move for a protective order or the court's discretion to make any order that justice requires to limit a deposition in order to protect any party, deponent, or other natural person or organization from unwarranted annoyance, embarrassment, oppression, undue burden, or expense.

As such, a seven hour deposition becomes the default rule for most family law case depositions. The exceptions to this rule are for extensions of time by court order, for depositions of expert witnesses, for designated "complex" cases, for employment litigation cases, for a person most knowledgeable designated by a business entity, and for parties entering into a lawsuit after a deposition had already occurred.

This time limit rule means that some crucial choices must be made by family law litigants and their counsel as to what topics and issues are of top priority to be explored at a deposition, and whether a request for additional time should be made before or after a deposition that is anticipated to be longer than seven hours (particularly in complex, high dollar divorces where many individual financial transactions over many years may each need close examination in a deposition context).

Also, seeking a stipulation to extend the seven hour period before the deposition is a good idea. An unreasonable failure to agree may help bolster a subsequent attorney's fees or sanctions request.

Similarly, it may be a good idea to send a deponent and opposing counsel advanced copies of all documents that will be the subject of a deposition so as to make a record that the deponent has had an opportunity to become familiar with the document thereby reducing the likelihood of delays during the deposition. Under federal law, such advanced notice is "desirable" and will increase the likelihood of a court granting an extension to the seven hour limit. Adv. Comm. Note to FRCP 30; Charleswell v. Chase Manhattan Bank, N.A. (D VI 2011) 277 FRD 277, 280–283 [court required deposing party to identify in advance documents it intended to use as deposition exhibits]. On the other hand, advanced notice might decrease the veracity of a deponent's responses to inquiries about documents by allowing time for the deponent and his/her counsel to come up with plausible answers alternative to those the deposing party hopes will be stated on the record in a surprise context.

In terms of counting the time period of seven hours, CCP § 2025.290 excludes the time deposing the witness by the witness's attorney. This exclusion provision begs the question of what other events during a deposition might also not count against the seven hours, and since the statute's 2013 revisions are so new no reported California cases had address this issue. However, we can look to cases interpreting the preexisting federal counterpart to CCP § 2025.290, FRCP Rule 30(d), for some guidance on such 'gap-filling' questions. Under federal law, the seven-hour limit applies to time spent on the record, exclusive of rest breaks and lunch breaks. Condit v. Dunne (SD NY 2004) 225 FRD 100, 112–113 [citing Adv. Comm. Notes to 2000 Amendment to FRCP 30].

CCP § 2025.290 also begs the question of how to deal with a deposition going over seven hours of adverse/cross examination time. Under federal case law, if a deposition goes beyond the seven-hour limit, counsel must object on the record and adjourn the deposition. Otherwise, the time limit may be waived. Dorn v. Potter (WD PA 2002) 191 F.Supp.2d 612, 615, fn. 2 [testimony obtained after the seven-hour mark could be used by opposing counsel because deponent's counsel never raised the issue during the deposition itself]. As such, it is important for counsel defending a deposition to immediately raise an objection the moment that the seven hours of adverse/cross examination comes to pass. A good idea is for defending counsel to bring a timer with him/her to measure the adverse examination time, but also to be careful to stop the clock for 'friendly'/direct examination and for breaks.

Neither the federal FRCP Rule 30(d) nor the CCP § 2025.290 directly addresses whether a request for additional time need be made before or after the seven hours have been used and have expired. Under federal law, some courts may refuse to consider such a request until the first seven hours have been exhausted. Malec v. Trustees of Boston College (D MA 2002) 208 FRD 23, 24. This makes sense in that, until the seven hours are actually used, it is somewhat speculative to anticipate the deposition going beyond that time limit. On the other hand, it might be clear to counsel in some cases that a deposition will last more than seven hours. Moreover, some depositions require expensive travel for the deposing counsel (e.g. where a non-party witness is out of state/country and cannot be compelled to travel into California for the deposition) or for the witness such that it makes sense to seek a time-extension order before the fact.

If a request for additional time is made after the seven hours have expired, the deposing counsel should make sure he or she has used the seven hours efficiently and properly prioritized the issues already explored at the deposition. The non-deposing counsel will likely oppose an extension where the deposing counsel has wasted time on frivolous, non-relevant matters, and a court's decision on additional time will likely be influenced by the reasonableness of the time already used at deposition.

We support this change wholeheartedly - too many depositions are used to just run up the clock, and the other side's attorney fees. Unfortunately, the biggest cudgel that many divorce litigators employ to beat the other side into settlement is running up their fees and making it impossibly expensive to continue in the case.

MCP

Sunday, 16 February 2014

3 Risks To A Temporary Separation

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If you’re thinking about a temporary separation to see if your marriage is reconcilable, then you’ve probably read our articles about the risks.


On the one hand, a temporary separation allows you and your wife some space to think about what you each truly want out of your marriage.


On the other hand, a temporary separation can easily transform into a new, and bad, status quo, one in which you have doubled your living expenses and have removed yourself from your children, if you have them, and/or have set a pattern of supporting your soon-to-be-ex.


While they may be helpful for the short run, every day must bring the two of you closer together or further apart – otherwise, the risks of confusing your children, establishing a support pattern, and setting expectations that you will be the secondary or “visiting” parent take over.


Here are three less obvious, but just as common risks you should consider about a temporary separation:


While you are separated, you should assume that any asset you and/or your spouse acquire, except some gifts and entirely segregated inheritances, are marital property to be divided equally between the two of you.


This means the furniture you bought to outfit your new place, your new TV, your contributions to your 401k, your interests in your pension, etc., are eligible for division even after a lengthy separation, in most states.


This rule is not intuitive because most spouses will expect that their property rights were defined at the time they separated since their decision to divorce is in their minds really an extension of their decision to separate.


However, in most states, the rule is property is to be divided if it came to be between the date of the marriage and the date of the divorce, NOT the date of separation.


While some states allow judges to fix the date at an earlier date, such as the date of separation or some date in between when it became clear the couple would not reconcile, this is but an exception to the rule.


What’s worse, if you stop contributions toward your retirement to get around this rule, most states will treat your actions as “in anticipation of divorce” and will divide your retirement as if you had made those contributions.


The best approach, therefore, is to make the separation short and decide soon whether to reconcile or file for divorce.


Similarly, in most states, the debts either you or your spouse acquire are still considered marital debts to be divided between the two of you as of the date of divorce, and again, not as of the date of separation.


This may be intuitive for debts like the credit card the two of you have been using for gas, a medical expense for your child, or the home mortgage, but what about anticipated debts like a home repair while your spouse has resided in the home or credit card spending your spouse claims is “all for the family” but you cannot track?


Yes, in most states these too would be marital debt. While some states allow judges to fix the date to divide debts as of some other date and to identify some debts as “purely personal,” this too is the exception and not the rule.


You should assume that any debts your spouse acquires while you are separated from her are one-half yours.


Unfortunately, these unanticipated consequences can, and often do, carry over to tax season. There is no rule that spouses must file their federal tax return with the status “married, filing jointly,” which is usually the most preferred tax filing status.


Rather, either spouse may file with the status “married, filing separately” and take advantage of his or her own deductions, exemptions, and refunds.


If you and your spouse are not on speaking terms, you may not discover this separate filing until you file your return – long after she has claimed what she can for the home, and the children, and long after she has spent her refund.


Then what are you to do if you and your spouse still intend to separate temporarily?


First, establish a firm deadline for the separation – a month, two months, etc. – at which time you will either reconcile or one of you will file for divorce. The longer your separation goes the greater these risks grow.


Second, consider a separation agreement. In some states, judges will enforce these as contracts. Even if your state doesn’t view them as contracts, either way you and your spouse have set forth your expectations.


Most of all, exercise caution every day of your separation. Assume your assets during that time are one-half your spouse’s, her debts are one-half yours, and taxes will be an issue.


Decide relatively soon to file for divorce if every day you are not growing closer together as a couple.


 

Friday, 14 February 2014

Most Popular Divorce Articles in 2013

popular divorce articlesOne of the many differences between DadsDivorce.com and other men’s divorce websites are the amount of divorce articles, interviews, and videos added to our site daily.

Each year, DadsDivorce.com publishes hundreds of fresh, new pieces of content.

While the divorce forum is still the most popular section of DadsDivorce.com and the divorce resources page provides invaluable information, the articles keep you up-to-date on the latest divorce laws, industry trends, and newest legal strategies being utilized.

If you don’t already visit DadsDivorce.com every day, make us part of your daily routine to ensure you don’t miss a thing that could impact your case.

Here is a list of the 10 most popular divorce articles on DadsDivorce.com in 2013.

1. What Does Child Support Actually Cover?

2. 10 Things You Can Do To Sabotage Your Custody Battle

3. Will I Have To Pay Alimony?

4. Child Support Age of Emancipation in Your State

5. I'm still paying off child support arrears for my adult child. When will it stop?

6. When Should Divorced Dads Introduce The New Girlfriend?

7. Unemployed and Broke: How Can I Lower My Child Support?

8. What To Do With The House?

9. Violating Child Custody Orders: Should You Call The Police?

10. 6 Things You Should Never Say To Your Spouse During A Divorce


Wednesday, 12 February 2014

Confirming Paternity Without A Court-Ordered DNA Test

paternity dna testBy Erik Carter


Cordell & Cordell Divorce Attorney


Husbands are generally presumed to be the biological father of any children born during the marriage. Boyfriends are not, regardless of how long you and she have been involved with each other. 


Whether you are her husband or her boyfriend, you may presume you are the father of her child or children. You may be absolutely confident. But every now and then, you may want to confirm that you are the father.


Maybe she cheated on you. Maybe she denied she was cheating, but you have your suspicions. Maybe someone told you she was cheating. Maybe the child looks sort of like you, but not exactly. 


She knows she’s the mother. But you might have a slight doubt that you are the father. What do you do?


In the old days, your only option was a court-ordered DNA test. This is because the older genetic testing required samples from both parents and the child. 


If the mother was uncooperative, a court order was required to draw her blood to get the sample. 


Today, genetic testing can be done with only the child and the father.


A court order for DNA testing has several disadvantages. One is that some mothers will deny parenting time until the results come back. This is usually done on the grounds that the child should not bond with a man who the testing may show is not the father. 


If this happens, courts rarely order this missed time to be made up. However, you are generally responsible for child support during this time. 


Another disadvantage is that, no matter how sure you are the father, she can say to the child in the future that you demanded a DNA test to prove you were his or her father, which could erode the relationship between you and the child.


Courts could lessen the need for this if they required the mother to swear under oath that you are the only possible candidate for paternity. This is because you know that you had relations with her during the period when conception was possible. But only she knows if you were the only one who had relations with her during the period when conception was possible. 


Unfortunately, most courts are reluctant to order the mother to so swear. Instead, many judges will side step this by saying that if the father has doubts, he should ask for a DNA test.


One alternative if you are simply confirming your paternity in your mind is to use an off-the-shelf home DNA test from your local drug store. 


The results from these are generally not admissible in court, due to chain of evidence concerns. But most of these tests are now likely reliable enough for you to either confirm – in your mind - your paternity or make a decision as to whether to challenge or assert your paternity through the court.

Sunday, 9 February 2014

SANCTIONS for Failure to Disclose SEPARATE PROPERTY As Breach of Fiduciary Duty - Marriage of Simmons

Q. Does a spouse have the obligation to disclose separate property assets in the course of a dissolution proceeding and, if so, what are the remedies for nondisclosure?

A. Perhaps somewhat surprisingly to spouses and registered domestic partners who believe that fiduciary duties are, and need to be, the bedrock of disclosure responsibilities in divorce and family law litigation in order to keep the players honest, the answer recently given by the Fourth Appellate District in California is that spouses do have such an obligation but that the remedies for nondisclosure differ from those that become available where a party hides interests in what may be community property from the other.

Family Code section 1101 creates severe consequences for dissolution litigants who hide the community ball, consisting of an award of at least one-half the value of the undisclosed asset, or in cases where the evidence is clear and convincing that a party has been guilty of "oppression, fraud, or malice" within the meaning of Civil Code section 3294 in concealing an asset, 100% of that ball - and in either case reasonable attorneys fees. Marriage of Rossi (2001) 90 Cal.App.4th 34 is the poster child for the judicial response available for this type of breach of fiduciary duty, involving a wife who hid from her husband the fact that she'd won the California lottery and then filed for divorce shortly after she learned of her great good fortune (he only learned of it by accident later, when he received a notice addressed to her from the State Lottery Commission). The trial court snatched all of the wife's winnings as the ultimate sanction for her fraud.

Section 1101(g) reads:

Remedies for breach of the fiduciary duty by one spouse, including those set out in Sections 721 and 1100, shall include, but not be limited to, an award to the other spouse of 50 percent, or an amount equal to 50 percent, of any asset undisclosed or transferred in breach of the fiduciary duty plus attorney's fees and court costs.

The value of the asset shall be determined to be its highest value at the date of the breach of the fiduciary duty, the date of the sale or disposition of the asset, or the date of the award by the court.

Subsection (h), upon which the Rossi sanctions were based, adds:

Remedies for the breach of the fiduciary duty by one spouse, as set forth in Sections 721 and 1100, when the breach falls within the ambit of Section 3294 of the Civil Code shall include, but not be limited to, an award to the other spouse of 100 percent, or an amount equal to 100 percent, of any asset undisclosed or transferred in breach of the fiduciary duty.

Many family law litigants and their attorneys arrogantly refuse to disclose their separate property interests because, after all, they don't feel they should have to disclose anything. Ultimately, when characterization is disputed, it is up to the trial court to declare whether property claimed to be separate is indeed separate and the labels that the parties attach to their assets are not determinative. Still, many litigants think that if they call the property in question "separate", they have no resulting fiduciary duties as to such assets. If they are correct, it is true that the other party has no interest in the asset and a party can do what they want with it - but that doesn't mean they can avoid disclosing it in the declarations of disclosure or Income and Expense Declarations. The existence of separate property is always relevant to issues regarding cash available for support, as with separate property business or investment interests that generate income, and as to attorney fees in terms of the disparity of assets or earnings that justifies a fee award in order to level the playing field, or even attorney fees that are payable from separate property assets pursuant to Family Code section 2032. There needs to be consequences for this failure to disclose that party's true financial condition, especially because often the reason why a party decides not to disclose liquid assets is exactly to avoid being 'taxed' for them in the form of fees or support.

Unfortunately, in the case of Marriage of Simmons, Justice Haller of the Fourth District Court of Appeal (San Diego) recently authored a decision that limits the scope of remedies that can be imposed upon parties who conceal the existence of separate property. That decision holds that FC section 1101 remedies are only available for nondisclosures of community property, but the good news is that the court affirmed that Family Code section 271 and section 2107(c) sanctions remain available, and are the appropriate remedy.

In Marriage of Simmons the parties had been married only one year before they separated. They had one child born almost exactly nine months after the parties married. The wife, Tracy, filed the disso petition, commencing what became a classic high-conflict game of cat and mouse. As the court's decision describes it, "[w]hat followed was an astoundingly lengthy, circuitous, and expensive course of litigation, particularly that both parties had substantial financial assets and were married for a very brief time." Tracy managed to run up $800,000 in attorney fees and costs by the time the case came to be resolved. Seen through the eyes of the family court judge, the protracted litigation was largely due to the husband's (Keith) "questionable litigation tactics" which included hiring and firing a series of attorneys, refusing to comply with the most basic financial disclosures, filing misleading and delayed disclosures, failing to fully disclose his assets, misusing Tracy's computer to disseminate her emails to third parties, failing to respond to discovery requests, failing to appear for deposition, and generally acting intentionally and in bad faith. As a consequence, the trial court awarded $150,000 in sanctions against Keith under Family Code section 2107 for breach of his fiduciary duties of disclosure, $250,000 in sanctions under Family Code section 271 for uncooperative conduct, and most relevantly to this appeal, applied Family Code section 1101(h) to award Tracy $245,850.24 for Keith's failure of an undisclosed separate property savings account.

On appeal Keith offered little to show that he had not repeatedly breach his fiduciary duties. Instead, he took the position that the $150,000 in FC section 2107 and 271 sanctions were excessive and beyond his ability to pay, and that the trial court had no authority to impose $245,850.24 in section 1101(h) remedies for his failure to report his separate property. He found traction on that argument.

Keith stated in an Income and Expense declaration that he had $44,350 in his bank accounts without, as the decision notes, specifying any of the accounts themselves. In fact he had $245,850.24 in a Wells Fargo savings account that he hadn't admitted. Tracy's attorneys suspected the account existed but it took many months and much wrangling for Tracy to obtain the proof in the form of the actual monthly statements. Hence, the record was clear that when he said he had only $44,350, Keith lied and the inference was that he concealed the monies in part to bolster his own request for need based fees as against Tracy. Tracy sought sanctions and the trial court was upset and frustrated enough with Keith, in light of all his other avoidant and uncooperative conduct, that it awarded the total value of the nondisclosed Wells Fargo account to Tracy per section 1101(h). This, turned out to be reversible error. The remaining sanctions were upheld.

Justice Haller declared that Family Code section 1101 provides no remedy whatsoever for nondisclosure of separate property during the course of dissolution proceedings - in this case, under these facts given the very short marriage, Tracy evidently had no colorable claim that the Wells Fargo monies had a CP origin. I can imagine a longer term marriage where such a characterization would not be obvious and clear, but one year doesn't give rise to much by way of CP except for the ubber-wealthy. Therefore, the Court reasoned, the trial court could not impose 1101 sanctions for this type of concealment. The decision is instructive in terms of the appellate review of Family Code section 721 (creating a broad fiduciary relationship between spouses in interspousal transactions, which this clearly did not result from) and Family Code section 1100, which speaks to full disclosure involving community property and omits any reference to separate property disclosures.

Family Code section 2100 et seq. address the obligations to disclose the existence of income, assets, and debts generally. Section 2100(c) makes it clear that not merely community property assets and earnings must be disclosed - all income sources and property must be disclosed "in the early stages of a proceeding for dissolution of marriage or legal separation of the parties, regardless of the characterization as community or separate, together with a disclosure of all income and expenses of the parties. Moreover, each party has a continuing duty to immediately, fully, and accurately update and augment that disclosure to the extent there have been any material changes so that at the time the parties enter into an agreement for the resolution of any of these issues, or at the time of trial on these issues, each party will have a full and complete knowledge of the relevant underlying facts."

However, the Simmons Court concluded that the legislature did not intend that 1101 sanctions could be applied to breaches of the disclosure obligations set forth in 2100 through 2107. Specifically, the Court found that (1) 1101 is found in a portion of the Family Code that only addresses community property; (2) because 1101(f) permits the parties to pursue sanctions even when there is no family law proceeding pending, the remedy was not intended to extend to separate property which is generally not subject to the control of then nonowner spouse and only becomes relevant upon the filing of a dissolution action; (3) the Legislature had enacted remedies made specifically applicable to separate property, including section 271 for uncooperative conduct in divorce proceedings and section 2107 for nondisclosure of either marital or separate property; and (4) a fundamental principle of family law is that each spouse has a one-half interest in community property (only), and the fiduciary duties with regard to such property is intended to preserve and protect that interest. Since section 1101 speaks a potential award of one-half or more of that interest, and given that separate property is not subject to equal ownership or a division of that interest, the Legislature could not have intended that separate property be divided as this form of sanction.

Accordingly, the 1101(h) award to Tracy of $245,850.24 was reversed. The good news is that the case was ordered remanded to the trial court to re-evaluate sanctions for the failure to disclose the separate funds in the Wells Fargo account, but only under authority of sections 271 and 2107. Since the trial court had already awarded $150,000 under those sections, it must now decide whether it would have ordered a larger number had it known that 1101 sanctions were unavailable. 2107(c) states "If a party fails to comply with any provision of this chapter, the court shall, in addition to any other remedy provided by law, impose money sanctions against the noncomplying party. Sanctions shall be in an amount sufficient to deter repetition of the conduct or comparable conduct, and shall include reasonable attorney's fees, costs incurred, or both, unless the court finds that the noncomplying party acted with substantial justification or that other circumstances make the imposition of the sanction unjust."

This is the first reported case dealing exclusively with what sanctions are available for nondisclosures of separate property interests. The decision does make sense, although it removes from the fiduciary duty breach quiver a powerful tool for corralling wayward litigants, given that the amount of sanctions will often be less than one-half the value of the nondisclosed asset. It stands for the proposition that nondisclosures of separate property, importantly including within a party's Income and Expense, should be sanctioned.

Also, keep in mind, that in this case the nondisclosed bank account was not contested as separate property - the result should be different in cases where characterization is contested, as where the account is a hybrid commingled mix or CP and SP funds, or where the funds trace to a marital source or marital opportunity but only if it does turn out that the property had CP attributes (which may have to await the final trial - otherwise, these sanctions are available at any stage of the proceedings). Given the very short marriage, that claim evidently did not exist here.

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TWA

Friday, 7 February 2014

Time for Producing Documents at Family Law DEPOSITIONS

In the course of one of my firm's cases, we recently received an objection to the production of documents in connection with the deposition of the opposing party. The objection was premised on the deposition notice's service on the opposing party being less than 20 days from the date set for the deposition, and cited California Code of Civil Procedure § 2025.270(c) as authority that a 20 day service period applies under these facts. The opposing party was not objecting to the deposition itself, but just the document production demand, and stated it would not be complying.

The primary code section for authority that a deponent can be required to produce documents is found at CCP § 2025.280, which provides:

(a) The service of a deposition notice under Section 2025.240 is effective to require any deponent who is a party to the action or an officer, director, managing agent, or employee of a party to attend and to testify, as well as to produce any document, electronically stored information, or tangible thing for inspection and copying.

(b) The attendance and testimony of any other deponent, as well as the production by the deponent of any document, electronically stored information, or tangible thing for inspection and copying, requires the service on the deponent of a deposition subpoena under Chapter 6 (commencing with Section 2020.010).

As such, with respect to document production at a deposition, the law distinguishes between depositions of parties and depositions of non-parties. The former merely requires a deposition notice while the latter requires a deposition subpoena.

A cursory read of CCP § 2025.270(c) might lead a person to think that a 20 day notice period is the correct time frame for a document production demand in connection with any deposition in California. Not so. That code subsection only applies to production demands in connection with the deposition of a non-party witness.

CCP § 2025.270, in pertinent part, provides:

(a) An oral deposition shall be scheduled for a date at least 10 days after service of the deposition notice.

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(c) Notwithstanding subdivisions (a) and (b), if, as defined in Section 1985.3 or 1985.6, the party giving notice of the deposition is a subpoenaing party, and the deponent is a witness commanded by a deposition subpoena to produce personal records of a consumer or employment records of an employee, the deposition shall be scheduled for a date at least 20 days after issuance of that subpoena. [Subsections (b) and (d) are omitted]

The distinction between the procedural, and hence timing requirements, for depositions of parties vis a vis non-parties as described in CCP § 2025.280 (a) and (b) is mirrored by the distinction between the 10 day rule for deposition notice with a production demand for a party under CCP § 2025.270(a) vis a vis the 20 day rule for a deposition subpoena with a production for a non-party under CCP § 2025.270(a).

Several linguistic clues that CCP § 2025.270(c) only applies to non-party deponents are present in that subsection itself: It discusses the party noticing a deposition as being a "subpoenaing party" and the "deponent is a witness commanded by a deposition subpoena to produce personal records…". This language indicates that the 20 day (plus service days) notice period rule only applies to the depositions with production of non-parties, who are the only deponents required to be served a subpoena for attendance at a deposition. In my case (and with any party deposition) no subpoena is required for the deposition of the party opponent as she is a party to the dissolution of marriage action, and therefore CCP § 2025.270(c)'s 20 day notice period is not applicable to her.

Aside from the statute itself, practice guides (somewhat indirectly) confirm this being the correct analysis. Weil & Brown's Cal. Prac. Guide Civ. Pro. Before Trial Ch. 8E-4: Notice of Deposition, at 8:493.1, provides: "Compare—depo notice to party: But a party deponent may be compelled to produce such records without a subpoena or the 20–day waiting period. The normal 10–day deposition notice compels document production by a party (see ¶ 8:516)."

Similarly, Weil & Brown's Cal. Prac. Guide Civ. Pro. Before Trial Ch. 8E-5: Subpoena Not Necessary For Party Or "Party–Affiliated" Witnesses, at 8:516, provides: "Subpoena NOT Necessary for Party or "Party–Affiliated" Witnesses: There is no need to serve a deposition subpoena on an opposing party in order to take that party's deposition. Proper service of notice of deposition compels the opposing party to appear, to testify, and to produce documents if requested. [CCP § 2025.280(a)]."

In response to the opposing party's objection, my first step was to draft a meet and confer letter for the opposing party's counsel demanding she withdraw her client's objection. I did the meet and confer as a precursor to a motion to compel, required by CCP § 2025.450(b)(2) [applicable to non-production of documents by a party opponent deponent] and CCP § 2025.480(b)(2) [applicable to non-production of documents by any deponent]. I offered to reschedule the deposition for 10 days later than originally set, and I expressly warned opposing counsel that should she fail to withdraw the objection and/or reschedule, I would immediate file a motion to compel, a motion for a protective order, seek discovery sanctions (monetary and/or evidence preclusion), and would seek Family Code sanctions pursuant to FC § 271. I think it to be the best practice to always specifically state what remedies I will seek when drafting a meet and confer letter, and I bear in mind that the intended reader of a meet and confer letter is the judge on the case as much as the opposing party/counsel.

At first, the opposing counsel refused to withdraw her objection. Later, she apparently changed her mind (she probably closely reviewed the point and authorities in my meet and confer letter) and agreed to continue the opposing party's deposition out 10 days. While this was not an express withdrawal of her objection, the effect of the continuance is to render the objection moot. The opposing counsel probably told her client she would not need to produce documents, and when the opposing counsel realized she was wrong, this disposition, without an express withdrawal of the objection, allowed opposing counsel to save face with her own client. Fair enough if I accomplish the job getting the party opponent to produce the documents demanded at her deposition.

Note: Nonetheless, you really ought to give the other party more than 10 days to produce documents, especially if you are making a voluminous request. You don't want to be forced to file a discovery motion, and you do want all relevant information at the time of that deposition or you may just find you've dramatically increased your litigation costs and engaged in a frustrating battle that otherwise could have been avoided.

MCP

Wednesday, 5 February 2014

Being A Single Father Doesn't Have To Be As Stressful

single father stressThe number of single fathers in the United States is 1.96 million, according to the United States Census Bureau. Single fathers now represent 16 percent of all single parents, and the number is rising.

As more fathers take on the role of a single parent, they’re discovering that they face the same challenges as mothers do when raising their children alone.

As a single father, everything changes: goals, values, opinions about the opposite sex, and sometimes, even your job.

You will have moments when you stumble, and there will be moments when you shine. As you gain footing, experience, and priceless memories as a single father, you will stumble less and shine more.

But, when it’s all still so new, what can you do to ensure that you’re on the right path?

Here are some tips on how to make being a single dad a little less stressful so you can focus on what’s important – your children and yourself.

This goes for both you and your ex-wife. As long as violence, drugs, or other egregious behavior isn’t part of the divorce, then it’s critical that both partners work toward developing and maintaining healthy communication with one another.

Healthy communication, which includes establishing boundaries, works to help reduce stress in the children because they see their parents cooperating. Mediation can help in that regard.

Seek out friends, family, clergy, and professional counselors. We all need a soft place to land on our toughest days – even dads.

If you need help, but would feel more comfortable speaking with other single dads, there are a multitude of support groups and resources available online.

Children need structure, and it’s even more important after an emotionally significant experience, such as divorce.

When you establish rules and a routine regarding such things as meals, bedtime, homework, and behavior, your children will know what to expect and what is expected of them. Stick with it to ensure consistency and your household will be that much more peaceful.

There's no doubt that during these difficult times and through all the turmoil, you may overlook things you wouldn't have before.

Perhaps your child is acting up or has a change in attitude altogether. This could be a sign of their confusion about what's going on, but it could also be a sign of emotional child neglect at a daycare facility.

As mentioned earlier, communication is an important skill to have in general, but it's imperative in times like these. As your child's father, you should keep the lines of communication open for them to let you know how they're feeling about all aspects of life.

Keep your eyes and ears open, and allow them to tell you their thoughts and perhaps you may gain insight into whether there are third party influences to blame for your child's behavior.

Many single parents fall into the trap of being too lenient with their children post-divorce because they feel guilty.

Unfortunately, when you treat your children like equals and/or don’t consistently impose boundaries, you are doing yourself and them a disservice. They will come to expect more and more leniency, and that could become a point of contention between you.

Let your children mature at a pace respective to their age, and resist treating them like adult friends.

They need guidance, reassurance and boundaries to help them navigate through the feelings of divorce, not to mention the natural turmoil of childhood.

The job of a single parent is stressful, particularly right after the divorce or loss of the other parent. For single fathers, it’s no different.

By focusing on proper communication with your ex and your children, as well as taking care of your own mental and emotional health, you will be the quality role model your children need, and you will excel as a single dad.


Sunday, 2 February 2014

Some Pointers for Lawyers and Parties Who Face SURPRISE MOTIONS TO QUASH

Anticipating and Opposing Last Minute, Bogus, Motions to Quash Service of Summons or RFO's

So, I was faced with an attorney who've I've been up against a few times before today, who always plays the last minute game of subterfuge and distraction. The last time I opposed her, her client was sanctioned $35,000 per Family Code section 271 - and her former client pays us a portion each month like clockwork (thank you very much).

This time the issue involved service upon her client (a same-sex RDP with mine) of the Summons, Petition, and our Request for Partner Support. Although I have the highest respect for the Judge who heard the matter today (not local), it is obvious to me that a lot of judges and lawyers don't understand the appropriate procedures for contesting service of process. In this case, the other party filed a Declaration claiming he was on a flight to Hawaii when he was in fact home and was served, but to my disappointment the Judge wanted to bend over backwards to give the other party an opportunity to dispute that he was served by our Santa Ana process server (whom I don't know but, as is often the case, out of town service has to be farmed out to someone local). I have every reason to believe the service was valid, and the other side's conduct only validates my assumption.

The Respondent's declaration, as discussed below, waived any objections to service challenges. As a result, his attorney committed malpractice (unless her only goal was only to gain a continuance, as I suspect). She sent the Declaration out regular mail last Friday, fully intending to give it to me for the first time this morning - as she did. This happens way too often, and Family Court Judges need to act to protect both sides from ambush. However, they often are - quite reasonably - constrained by ideas of fairness, which is fine, as long as we attorneys and litigants follow the rules that we seek protection by. Fairness is great, but "out-spouses" deserve it too.

I've been wanting to share some of our firm's pleadings with the Enlightened Divorce Blog™ readership, and maybe this is the way to do it - this is cut and pasted from the Points and Authorities we will be filing seeking consequential attorney fees and sanctions. I may start doing more of this if you find it useful.

Ultimately, the hearing did get continued 30 days, but we aren't done yet - as is clear from what follows, which will include a request for all attorney fees the other side caused my client. Continuances, like poop, happen. And shouldn't be taken personally.

Summary of Argument

Petitioner does not dispute the power of this Court to manage its calendar and to grant continuances that it deems in “the interests of justice”. Instead, Petitioner by his counsel hopes that the efficient administration of justice as between attorneys will follow well established rules. Otherwise family law is nothing better than the “Wild, Wild, West” and miscarriages of justice and procedure will not only continue, but will be encouraged.

On August 4, 2013, Respondent was served with the Summons, Petition, and Request for Orders, among other things. On August 24, 2013, Respondent executed a “Declaration of John Smith (Specially Appearing)" dated August 24, which Respondent’s attorney belatedly filed on Friday, August 30, 2013, before the Labor Day Weekend, by which she purported to serve Petitioner’s attorney (us) by regular mail, only.

Respondent’s counsel gave no explanation at the hearing that occurred on September 3, 2013, when she - or the Respondent - first supposedly learned that Respondent had allegedly been served. Nor did Respondent’s counsel explain why she did not file or serve the declaration of Respondent prior to August 30, and then only by regular mail rather than by some other means intended and designed to give Petitioner and his attorney notice of the contentions that Respondent would make at the September 3 hearing. Instead, she hand delivered Respondent’s “Declaration” upon Petitioner’s counsel the morning of the hearing that contained a ‘whited’ out inadmissible hearsay document of unknown origin consisting of a supposed flight plan - long after it was possible for Petitioner’s counsel to research the legal issues (rules relating to special appearances and Motions to Quash) or the factual issues (an inquiry of the circumstances claimed by Jim Jones (not his name) who alleges under penalty of perjury that he did in fact fully serve the Respondent with the Summons, etc.)

POINTS AND AUTHORITIES

A. Respondent Has Entered a General Appearance, and Entered It on August 30, 2013,

Before the Subject Hearing

Petitioner properly objected that pursuant to recently revised Cal.Rules of Court, Rule 5.62, that (1) no such thing as a “Special Appearance” to contest jurisdiction by reason of service of process exists where a party fails to file a noticed motion to quash the service, or the proceedings; (2) that the Respondent himself entered a general appearance by having filed his Declaration on August 30, 2013; and that (3) a Motion to Quash must be filed within 30 days of the purported service or it is waived by operation of law.

There is no such thing as a "special appearance" in California - the common law distinction has been abolished. Hogoboom & King, California Practice Guide, Family Law, section 4:6. As they state, "Essentially, unless respondent files a motion to quash service of summons within the 30-day response period (or any other period allowed by the court), a personal jurisdiction challenge is waived and any other pleading filed or action taken in the case is a 'general appearance'." [Italics in orig]. However, the cases still use the terms.

Indeed, as in general civil cases, the respondent also enters a general appearance by asking for any relief or by otherwise participating in the action in a manner that recognizes the court's authority over his or her person. Hogoboom & King, supra, section 4:7. Moreover, a party's own characterization of an appearance as a "special appearance" is not conclusive for purposes of determining whether a party "consented" to the court's personal jurisdiction by appearing in the action. [See Szynalski v. Super.Ct. (Rosenthal & Co., LLC) (2009) 172 CA4th 1, at 11]. "On general principles, a statement that a defendant or party makes a special appearance is of no consequence whatever. . . . [I]f he appears and asks for any relief which could only be given to a party in a pending case, or which itself would be a regular proceeding in the case, it is a general appearance, no matter how carefully or expressly it may be stated that the appearance is special. It is the character of the relief asked, and not the intention of the party that it shall or shall not constitute a general appearance, which is material”. In re Clarke (1899) 125 C. 388, at 392; see generally , 2 Witkin, Cal. Procedure (5th ed. 2008) Jurisdiction, section 207, pp. 815-817.

Failing to properly challenge personal jurisdiction within the time alotted and appearing to request a continuance also waives challenges to jurisdiction. [See In re Vanessa Q. (2010) 187 CA4th 128, at 135 - Hague Convention case]. Indeed, "[a] general appearance operates as a consent to jurisdiction of the person, dispensing with the requirement of service of process, and curing defects in service."Fireman's Fund Ins. Co. v. Sparks Construction, Inc. (2004) 111 CA4th 1135, 1145.

As shown below, there is only one statutorily authorized mechanism for challenging jurisdiction, whether it be for alleged defective service of the Summons and Petition or for purposes of claiming no minimum contacts to give rise to California personal jurisdiction: A noticed motion under CCP section 418.10. Taking any action other than the requisite noticed motion to quash constitutes a general appearance that cannot thereafter be negated by the filing of a motion to quash. Hogoboom & King, supra, section 4:8.1 (and cases cited therein).

Family Code section 210 provides as follows:

“Except to the extent that any other statute or rules adopted by the Judicial Council provide applicable rules, the rules of practice and procedure applicable to civil actions generally, including the provisions of Title 3a (commencing with Section 391) of Part 2 of the Code of Civil Procedure, apply to, and constitute the rules of practice and procedure in, proceedings under this code.” [Emphasis added].

The Court on September 3, 2013, declared that it was treating Respondent’s Declaration as a Motion to Quash or other jurisdictional challenge. That filing was not a Motion to Quash, nor did it contain any Notice of Motion to Quash language. This Court could, certainly, order the hearing continued as it deemed necessary and proper, but that is not what it did.

California Rule of Court 5.62 (Title 5.Family and Juvenile Rules, Division 1. Family Rules Chapter 4. Starting and Responding to a Family Law Case; Service of Papers. Article 2. Initial Pleadings) states:

“(a) Appearance

Except as provided in Code of Civil Procedure section 418.10, a respondent or defendant is deemed to have appeared in a proceeding when he or she files:

(1) A response or answer;

(2) A notice of motion to strike, under section 435 of the Code of Civil Procedure;

(3) A notice of motion to transfer the proceeding under section 395 of the Code of Civil Procedure; or

(4) A written notice of his or her appearance.

(b) Notice required after appearance

After appearance, the respondent or defendant or his or her attorney is entitled to notice of all subsequent proceedings of which notice is required to be given by these rules or in civil actions generally.

(c) No notice required

Where a respondent or defendant has not appeared, notice of subsequent proceedings need not be given to the respondent or defendant except as provided in these rules.” [Emphasis added].

Code of Civil Procedure section 418.10 provides:

“(a) A defendant, on or before the last day of his or her time to plead or within any further time that the court may for good cause allow, may serve and file a notice of motion for one or more of the following purposes:

(1) To quash service of summons on the ground of lack of jurisdiction of the court over him or her.

(2) To stay or dismiss the action on the ground of inconvenient forum.

(3) To dismiss the action pursuant to the applicable provisions of Chapter 1.5 (commencing with Section 583.110) of Title 8.

(b) The notice shall designate, as the time for making the motion, a date not more than 30 days after filing of the notice. The notice shall be served in the same manner, and at the same times, prescribed by subdivision (b) of Section 1005. The service and filing of the notice shall extend the defendant's time to plead until 15 days after service upon him or her of a written notice of entry of an order denying his or her motion, except that for good cause shown the court may extend the defendant's time to plead for an additional period not exceeding 20 days.

(c) If the motion is denied by the trial court, the defendant, within 10 days after service upon him or her of a written notice of entry of an order of the court denying his or her motion, or within any further time not exceeding 20 days that the trial court may for good cause allow, and before pleading, may petition an appropriate reviewing court for a writ of mandate to require the trial court to enter its order quashing the service of summons or staying or dismissing the action. The defendant shall file or enter his or her responsive pleading in the trial court within the time prescribed by subdivision (b) unless, on or before the last day of the defendant's time to plead, he or she serves upon the adverse party and files with the trial court a notice that he or she has petitioned for a writ of mandate. The service and filing of the notice shall extend the defendant's time to plead until 10 days after service upon him or her of a written notice of the final judgment in the mandate proceeding.

The time to plead may for good cause shown be extended by the trial court for an additional period not exceeding 20 days.

(d) No default may be entered against the defendant before expiration of his or her time to plead, and no motion under this section, or under Section 473 or 473.5 when joined with a motion under this section, or application to the court or stipulation of the parties for an extension of the time to plead, shall be deemed a general appearance by the defendant.

(e) A defendant or cross-defendant may make a motion under this section and simultaneously answer, demur, or move to strike the complaint or cross-complaint.

(1) Notwithstanding Section 1014, no act by a party who makes a motion under this section, including filing an answer, demurrer, or motion to strike constitutes an appearance, unless the court denies the motion made under this section. If the court denies the motion made under this section, the defendant or cross-defendant is not deemed to have generally appeared until entry of the order denying the motion.

(2) If the motion made under this section is denied and the defendant or cross-defendant petitions for a writ of mandate pursuant to subdivision (c), the defendant or cross-defendant is not deemed to have generally appeared until the proceedings on the writ petition have finally concluded.

(3) Failure to make a motion under this section at the time of filing a demurrer or motion to strike constitutes a waiver of the issues of lack of personal jurisdiction, inadequacy of process, inadequacy of service of process, inconvenient forum, and delay in prosecution.”

[Emphasis added].

Cal.Rules of Court, Rule 5.74(1) defines a "pleading" as "a petition, complaint, application, objection, answer, response, notice, request for orders, statement of interest, report, or account filed in proceedings under the Family Code."

Clearly, a “motion” and “notice of motion” is required for any attack on the efficacy of service, not a mere “Declaration” stating objections. When Mr. Smith filed his Declaration without the motion mandated by CCP section 418.20. Frankly, trial courts don’t have discretion to ignore the dictates of this statute - although they certainly have the right to order continuances “in the interests of justice”. Weil & Brown, of The Rutter Group, California Practice Guide, Civil Procedure Before Trial, at section 3:165.3 (a true copy of which is attached hereto as EXHIBIT 1) state these principles as follows:

“Failure to make a 418.10 motion to quash ‘at the time of filing a demurrer or motion to strike constitutes a waiver; of the issue of lack of personal jurisdiction. [C.C.P. section 418.10(e)(3) (emphasis added).

Although the statute mentions only a ‘demurrer or motion to strike’ (omitting an answer), it is interpreted to mean the time of filing any response. I.e., C.C.P. section 418.1 provides the exclusive procedure for challenging personal jurisdiction at the outset. [Roy v. Sup. Ct. (Lucky Star), 127 CA4th 337, 345, 25 CR3d 488, 494].

(1) [3:165.4]. Application: Thus, a defendant who raises lack of personal jurisdiction in its answer without filing a section 418.10 motion to quash has made a general appearance. [Roy v. Sup. Ct. (Lucky Star), supra, 127 CA4th at 341, 25 CR3d at 491]”

[Italics in original]. Once the responding party has filed anything else, "it is too late to file a motion to quash." Weil & Brow, supra, at section 3:378.5.

Weil & Brown, supra, at section 3:158 also state: “A general appearance by a party is equivalent to personal service of summons on that party [C.C.P. section 415.50(a); see Fireman’s Fund Ins. Co. v. Sparks Constr., Inc. (2004) 114 CA4TH 1135, 1145, 8 CR3d 446, 453 - by making general appearance, defendant forfeits any objection to defective service even if unaware such objection was available.” [Italics in original]. A true and correct copy of this Treatise section is attached hereto as EXHIBIT 2.

Finally, Weil & Brown note that no general appearance is made if a C.C.P. section 418.10 motion to quash is timely made - “anything beyond that is likely to be treated as a general appearance and should be preceded or accompanied by a motion to quash in order to preserve objections to jurisdiction.” Weil & Brown, supra, at section 3:165 through 3:165.2.

Because Mr. Smith filed a Declaration on August 30th, he waived any objection that he was not properly served. This reality is jurisdictional by statute; is not a matter for the exercise of the court's discretion, including 'treating' Mr. Smith's Declaration as a motion or notice of motion.

B. Respondent’s Counsel Violated The Meet and Confer Rules Required By Cal.Rules of Court,

Rule 5.98 Before The Subject Hearing

Newly enacted Cal.Rules of Court, Rule 5.98 mandates meet and confer between parties and counsel to avoid ambush and surprise. It states:

“(a) Meet and confer

All parties and all attorneys are required to meet and confer in person, by telephone, or as ordered by the court, before the date of the hearing relating to a Request for Order (FL-300). During this time, parties must discuss and make a good faith attempt to settle all issues, even if a complete settlement is not possible and only conditional agreements are made. The requirement to meet and confer does not apply to cases involving domestic violence.

(b) Document exchange

Before or while conferring, parties must exchange all documentary evidence that is to be relied on for proof of any material fact at the hearing. At the hearing, the court may decline to consider documents that were not given to the other party before the hearing as required under this rule. The requirement to exchange documents does not relate to documents that are submitted primarily for rebuttal or impeachment purposes.”

Attorney ______ in this case, who knew of Petitioner and the existence and identity of Petitioner’s counsel, had an absolute duty to contact Petitioner’s counsel before showing up with paperwork at a hearing for the first time when she’d filed but not served it prior to September 3, 2013.

C. Last-Minute Pleadings Must be Served in a Manner Designed to Give Immediate Notice

and Cannot Be Served for the First Time at a Hearing

It is a basic procedural principle that service of papers or pleadings must be served in a manner intended to give immediate notice, and not by regular mail as opposing counsel did in this case. Per C.C.P. section 1005(c) overnight mail must be reasonably calculated to ensure delivery to the other side not later then close of the next business day after the papers are filed. Here, opposing counsel, who full well knew my email and fax number, simply dropped them in the mail.

This conduct is not okay if the Court wishes that both sides enjoy due process. By all means, if you catch us or our clients lying or cheating, spank us! But otherwise, give us justice!

(That last part won't be in the final Points and Authorities in quite that way, but we do mean it!) No client of ours has ever been sanctioned, and none have been sued for breach of fiduciary duty.

TWA - good luck in the trenches!